Wedding Night Sex with a Total Stranger

I have been asked many times by my co-workers, friends, even friends of friends what my wedding night was like since I married someone I barely know. (I quickly discovered that having an arranged marriage was a great icebreaker, and my social circle mushrooms each time I retell my story.)

My co-workers are totally intrigued when they hear about my arranged marriage. My response to them usually is “Having sex the first time totally depends on the partners.”

 Here is how I truly feel however.


Studies have shown that most couples have sex after the third date. I spent time with Ashan 3 times before we were married. 1) the day we met 2) the family dinner 3) the engagement celebration. Think about this question. Is there an established etiquette for two consenting adults spending the night together in a bed? Every couple has a first time. For ours, we just happened to be married.



Also, even with people who know each other very well feel anxiety about wedding night sex.


In fact, it seems like for most people just because they have married, they have got the license to have sex. This is the thing that I think is poorly understood. In most arranged marriages nowadays, at least all the ones I've encountered, the man and the woman each has veto power. It's arranged, not forced. I have heard of arranged marriages where the husband forces the new bride to do things she is not comfortable doing. If she does not submit, he slaps her, she then becomes afraid of him, and does what he wants. That is marital rape. Not a sensual experience.

 


BTW – Wedding night sex was amazing!!! It was a whopping 96 degrees on our wedding day. We were exhausted and soaked when we finally got back to the honeymoon suite. I went into the bathroom to peel myself out of the drenched wedding attire, take a shower, and change. I finally walked out -- perfect hair, stellar makeup, and some sexy lingerie. Ashan was sitting on the edge of the bed, texting, and waiting patiently. He took a quick shower while I lit candles.

Scents always remind me of special events and generally enhance my mood.  When Ashan emerged from the bathroom, he smelled so good. And his jet black hair glistened from the wetness of the shower.  His shirt was unbuttoned and for the first time, I saw his bare chest.  I felt my knees weaken.  Ashan and I were both nervous. He carried me over to the bed.   We kissed and cuddled for awhile.  As we slowly undressed each other, I saw the ripples of his muscles on muscles. He was even more beautiful than I had imagined. Just being naked together felt amazing. Ashan was very gentle. We took our time. We giggled and played. I could feel Ashan getting hard, but I wasn’t quite ready for his entry. Surprisingly, he sensed this and his fingers began to work their magic. I was ecstatic. It was so sensual. Eventually, we relaxed enough for intercourse. Ashan and I are sexually attracted to each other. Throughout the course of the night, we made love several times. There is a certain expectation that sex on your wedding night will be something incredible. For us, it was. And the best part is that we get to have a wedding night all over again this weekend. We can’t wait!!!!!!